You are well aware that relationships can take work to make them
successful and relationships can be great when both parties are getting
along. The down side is we can get into fights with our boyfriends which
in turn can lead to a break up if we do not take action to fix it. One
way is to simply learn to apologize.
When
an argument happens you should probably take the initiative and
apologize to your boyfriend if your desire is to save your relationship.
It does not matter if you are at fault or not, sometimes the best step
to take is just say sorry so the two of can move on. How do you go about
apologizing in a situation like yours?
There are of course a
number of ways you can say you're sorry. But whichever way you go you
need to make it sound sincere. If you end up not apologizing after you
did something wrong, you can be assured it will hurt your relationship.
If
you were not the cause of the argument there will be conflict between
the two of you that will only build up till another argument happens. As
hard as it may be, saying sorry to your boyfriend may help defuse the
tension and stop the chance of another confrontation, even if he was at
fault. Below are some things you can do to make it easier for you to
increase the possibility of your boyfriend accepting your apology.
1.
Give your boyfriend some time to himself. He may just need a little
time to himself to work things out. Trying to do something too soon
could start the fight or argument again and leave you worse off than
before. Give him time alone so he can cool off and improve your chances.
2.
Give him his chance to vent his anger. You may have given him his space
but when you tried to talk to him he still got angry again. It's our
nature to be defensive when we feel threatened so try your best to
resist yelling back, let him get it out of his system. Once he gets it
off his chest he will calm down and be more open to talking to you.
3.
When you tell your boyfriend you are sorry be sincere about it. People
have a way of seeing through someone when they are lying to them. If you
are really sorry tell him otherwise you could do more harm than good
for your situation.
4. You may find this is going to be more
difficult than you thought. If you really want to save your relationship
you will have to think long term and work at it. You do not want to
come across as needy or pushy because this will make you look desperate.
He
needs some time to work through it o be careful with what you say and
do but don't let him take advantage of you. You may have to walk a fine
line between while looking for results. If you see he is taking
advantage of you and it is taking to long for the two of you to work
things out you may just have to break off the relationship.
